“My Choice” is the proposed anthem on women empowerment directed by Homi Adjania. The declarations are definitely very bold. Lots of counters have already been made, which have actually helped this video gain more publicity. But, let’s see how deeply thought of it is.
The first choice is to WEAR CLOTHES while allowing the spirit to roam naked. I find it quite OK. However, if the message were to not to wear clothes, I would have condemned it because the clothes we wear are the symbols of civilizational and cultural development we have undergone, and now there is no looking back towards the Stone Age. I don’t understand the word “Spirit”; in fact, I think there is no logical or scientific basis for it; the compromise understanding would be to equate it with enlightened consciousness; and, with this understanding, the naked spirit would mean a consciousness which is not trapped in religions, laws, mores, relationships, peer pressures, etc., which is fine.
The second choice is to be comfortable with one’s body weight and fitness. Well…I believe in “Sweat it like Pig” (actually the reference to pig here is pig iron, but for my purpose, it is pig, the animal). I would appreciate a pig for just trying, but sweating is important. if the message is to try without getting frustrated, the declaration seems to be fine.
The third choice is the orientation towards sex and marriage. I have a problem with clubbing the choice to marry with sex. Personally, I feel marriage is an obsolete concept, and, but for children, it is unnecessary. So if, at all, it has to be clubbed with anything, it should be children, not sex. Anyways, I think lots of unnecessary importance has been given to sex in man-woman relationships, which has reduced women into sex objects, for the males have dominated the relationships for ages now. I don’t know whether this declaration about sex helps women in any manner, but the declaration is correct. Lots of debate has arisen about adultery in the context of this declaration. This debate is a ramification of the patriarchal structure we live in. Under the marriage law, adultery is a ground for divorce for both men and women; however, under criminal law, a male entering into an adulterous relationship with a married woman is guilty of the offense of adultery, which is basically a punishment for intruding into the property rights of a man over his wife because the offense doesn’t operate vice versa; i.e., an outsider woman entering into an adulterous relationship is not punished similarly, and nor is the husband punished for adultery. However, fortunately, Indian courts have held that a wife shall also not be punished for adultery. So, the only offender is the outsider man. The choices made in the video are already available to the women in India under law, but with a rider that the exercise of the choice of adultery by a married woman puts the outsider man into a risk under law, so her own choice gets restricted this way. ACTUALLY WHAT IS REQUIRED IS THE CHOICE TO AN OUTSIDER MAN TO COMPLIMENT THE CHOICE OF A MARRIED WOMAN TO ENTER INTO ADULTERY, which is missing at present.
The fourth and fifth choices are about love. Here, the declarations are completely confused. “To love temporarily, or to lust forever.” I don’t know how to decide the duration of love or to pre-plan love. Either you love or you don’t love, and mostly you do love. And, where is the choice between love and lust. The two have no connection unless love is equated with sex. And, how can one decide to love only man or woman. Of course,one loves the parents of both sex, the siblings of both sex, the friends of both sex, the relations of both sex, and even the pets of both sex. So, what’s this all about? If the choice has been influenced by the love as defined by gays, it is stillborn.
All other choices are not independent choices but the ones influenced by the perceived and/or the existing inferior position of women in relation to men. These choices are influenced by a superiority complex, thus have to be ignored. “[D]on’t get cocky”: I have never seen a man getting cocky about his wife, it’s always other way round. Dhoni, Goerge Clooney, Barack Obama : Saina Nehwal, Meryl Streep, Margaret Thatcher. Make your analysis: who is lusted for the most.
My Conclusion: Overall, the anthem fails because it is not comprehensively appealing and, in parts, influenced by a superiority complex.
The transcript of the video “My Choice” is reproduced below:
My body, my mind, my choice
To wear the clothes I like; even if my spirit roams naked
My choice; to be a size 0 or a size 15
They don’t have a size for my spirit, and never will
To use cotton and silk to trap my soul is to believe that you can halt the expansion of the universe
Or capture sunlight in the palm of your hand
Your mind is caged, let it free
My body is not
Let it be
To marry, or not to marry
To have sex before marriage, to have sex out of marriage, or to not have sex
To love temporarily, or to lust forever
To love a man, or a woman, or both
Remember; you are my choice, I’m not your privilege
The bindi on my forehead, the ring on my finger, adding your surname to mine, they’re all ornaments and can be replaced
My love for you cannot, so treasure that
My choice; to come home when I want
Don’t be upset if I come home at 4am
Don’t be fooled if I come home at 6pm,
My choice; to have your baby or not
To pick you from 7 billion choices or not
So don’t get cocky
My pleasure might be your pain
My songs, your noise
My order, your anarchy
Your sins, my virtues
My choices are like my fingerprints
They make me unique
I am the tree of the forest
I am the snowflake not the snowfall
You are the snowflake
Get out of the shit storm
I choose to empathise
Or to be indifferent
I choose to be different
I am the universe
Infinite in every direction
This is my choice
© 2015 Ankur Mutreja