“Sex, Drugs and Chocolate” by Paul Martin

​Let me start with a spoiler. If you are expecting a soft porn, ateast in the one-third of the book, you are in for a big disappointment. Rather, if you are already enjoying your life well enough, don’t even look at this book because after reading this book you may realize that what you were doing was not pleasure but desire, and most probably even addiction. This book is an unabashed myth buster. All drugs are not bad, sex is almost always good, masturbation/anonism is healthy, Chocolate (with a capital “C”) is sexy in the real sense, the rich generally fail to get any pleasure whatsoever, and the list goes on. 

I would like to divide this book into three genres: the science, the history and the experiences. And I wouldn’t skip any. The science tells me desire is distinct and different from pleasure though the areas of brain which account for the two overlap. Not only this, the locations for pain and pleasure also overlap; and thus comes the theory of sadism. The brain creates its own opium to get the pleasure. The oxytocin which stimulate the flow of mother’s milk is also what accounts for the trust between the partners. The dopamine is responsible only for desire, not pleasure, and when you don’t have adequate dopamine receptors, your unfulfilled desire leads you towards addiction. So, if you think you will get immense pleasure in marriage if you remain virgin, wait and check your genes; if you don’t have enough dopamine receptors, your unfulfilled sexual desires will make you a drug addict instead. Your brain has a bias towards the peaks and the ends; so, be smart and outsmart your brain by enjoying small pleasures of life. 

The history tells me that the man has been using drugs for time immemorial, including some very well-known and respected people like Freud, Shakespeare, Bismarck, Churchill, et al. History also tells me that sex never started as a taboo. The religion played a spoilsport, so much so that masturbation was blamed for “disorders of the generative organs, epilepsy, consumption, hysteria, gleets, ulcers, childlessness and meagre Jaws, and pale Looks, with feeble Hams and legs without Calves”, unfortunately not only by the religious leaders but also by physicians and authors.

The experiences of others tells me the big name hedonists were actually losers. Gardening, cooking, fishing, etc, are far better in giving sustainable pleasure than doses of heroine and cocaine. Caffeine never harmed anybody, but it does have withdrawal symptoms. And the Chocolate also never harmed anybody if it’s the real dark Chocolate, not the adulterated milk chocolate. The nicotine is the most useless drug and alcohol, the most abused, but unfortunately both are legal. Ecstasy, the author says, is far less harmful than alcohol or nicotine. 

All this has been taught to me by this book. Of course, no soft porn teaches all this. BTW, today is also Teachers’ Day (Happy Teachers’ Day) — reading this book is far better than listening to political nonsense of the President of India; so, kids, next time call an author, not a politician. 

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Ankur Mutreja is an advocate-cum-writer, and his blogs are amongst his modes of expression. He has also authored six books: "Kerala Hugged"; "Light: Philosophy"; "Flare: Opinions"; "Sparks: Satire and Reviews"; "Writings @ Ankur Mutreja"; and "Nine Poems"; which can be downloaded free from the links on the top menu.

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