Earlier, I had held a view that marriage is an option closely linked to the need for bearing child/children. This view has now undergone a change. Now, I believe that marriages are evil. There should be no marriages at all. Child bearing can be done without marriages as well. The reason for this change is as follows.
The marriages are the biggest reason for differentiation between males and females. The only biological difference between males and females in humans and most of the animals is presence and absence of certain sexual organs. Other than that all differences are cultural. And marriages are the single most defining factor for these cultural differences. The role of a woman has always been that of a sex worker, and nothing has changed. Marriages accentuate this role.
However, the problem might be even deeper. The lowly sex worker role of a woman has also made women inequality the most prominent inequality of the world. The bias is writ large in the languages we speak. Almost every feminine word is derived from its masculine counterpart, esp. in English language ( Hindi seems to be better). I agree it is convenient, but the convenience could have been other way round as well. When the bias is so prominent, it becomes imperative to argue that shouldn’t this convenience be neutralized by an inconvenience more human. HUMAN, well…yes, HUMAN. When all of us are humans why have this gender distinction at all. Just because we want to emphasize one single interaction of sexual inercourse between males and females over all other varied and possible interactions. Why can’t this one interaction be just accepted as it is without any gloss? Why have males and females? Why not have just males? Why not have just men? Why not have just heroes? Extending further, why not have just Loins, Tigers, Cows, etc — I can’t think of any masculine name derived from a feminine name; “Cow” is the only feminine name that seems to have surpassed this gender bias, at least in India; so, the word “Cow” finds prominence over “Bull”. Yes, this will be inconvenient, but that’s the only way to end this inequality practiced just for some biological differences.
As already stated, marriages are the single most reason for accentuation of this biological difference. So, marriages obviously become obnoxious. As far as child bearing is concerned, isn’t it obvious the one who can feed the child will keep the child! In fact, the marriages are also a medium of misappropriation of children by those who hardly make any contribution towards them. It is quite possible that in a new system sans gender a new segregation on the basis of appropriation of children may arise. But a chance will have to be given to the females (as they are called now) to become better males, who won’t use their superior position to discriminate against lesser males and would allow them to play with children once in a while (anyways, that’s all they want and deserve). But…do females (as they are called now) really want to become “better males”. It doesn’t look like so because till now they haven’t done anything except to cut their hairs short, which actually relegate them to the position of “lesser males”.